SHE SAYS:
In 1984 Jessie Jackson ran
for president. I was four years old. My mother and my aunt took my cousin and I
(in strollers) to a campaign rally. I don’t remember much except the size of
the crowd, yelling “Run Jesse Run!!” And I remember Jesse saying in his speech
“I know I am Somebody, I know I am Somebody, I know I am Somebody!!” It stuck
with me. A few years later in Sunday school I remember staring at a poster with
a little kid on it that said, “I know I’m Somebody. Cause God don’t make no
junk!” That stuck with me too.
So while checking out my
Papi’s Facebook page today; I came across something that disturbed what Jesse
told me in 1984. And what that poster told me Sunday after Sunday. Here is what
he posted. He posted it from someone who posted it from someone…
“Females, lets be clear....and REAL....a man
isn't cheating with you because you are so good at being the other
woman....he's cheating with you because you aren't good enough to be THE woman.
I laugh at women that brag about being the "go to" woman when the man
gets bored at home, & you try to put down a submissive woman for being who
God designed her to be. Learn what submission really means. A submissive woman
is far from weak, because a true submissive woman knows how to carry the load
for him and her both without him even having to know it. She knows how to speak
to his spirit & not his lusts. She knows how to push him to his dreams
instead of pulling him to destruction. She knows how to pray with him and not
play with him. She knows how to be quiet even when her flesh wants to speak.
She knows the value of his hard work & not just his dollar. A submissive
woman is his "LIFETIME" but you are just a "GOOD
TIME"...and that's all you will ever be. He knows that he can throw a few
dollars & material possessions your way & that's all you will ever
expect. The other woman makes it easy for a man, the submissive woman makes it
easy for herself by making him EARN & not buy her. You are the O.T.H.E.R.
woman...an Overplayed Toy He Eventually Releases....Get it straight.”
On the surface this seems like a “Hell Yeah Girl!” statement. Until you
squint a little and realize that both women addressed in this statement suffer
from low self-esteem. Both women are allowing themselves to be used. Neither sees
their value. The woman who wrote this sees the other woman as the loser. The
immoral wretch who is worth nothing more than a roll in the hay.
This may be true. But the wife, the #1 woman who feels the need to
debase the other woman to extol her own worth values and status is a fool. She
with all of her values and commitment to the biblical idea of womanhood has
married a whore. She knows it. She stays. And she is angry with whom? The other
woman. Is she angry with her man? Not really.. He’ll be back.
No, the other woman is not a nice person… But if she enjoys her
position, she’s getting what she wants --a good time. Sure, she should believe
she’s worth more. But at least she
knows a dud when she sees one. Your cheating man is not worth more of an
investment than a good time.
Soo angry at the other woman… Why? She is just taking what he is
offering. If a man deceives
his wife took his paycheck, and his time to the casino would the woman blame
the casino? Or would she blame the man for a lack of honesty and commitment?
This issue has nothing to do with the other woman. She is an opportunist.
This has little to do with the man. (He broke his commitment) but at his core,
he too is an opportunist.
The issue is this long suffering woman who believes that God called her
to submit to a man who has not first submitted to God. And she wears her
suffering as a red badge of courage. And this makes her “better” than the other
woman YUP! Women are stupid. This is the very same attitude that keeps us nursing
broken hearts and medicating STD’s. A man would have never written such drivel.
When a woman cheats on a man with anyone he blames the woman. If she cheats
with his brother he will forgive his brother and still blame the woman. A man
would never sit there and think up a list of reasons why the other man is not
good enough to be number one. He doesn’t care. That man is getting for free
what he worked for and he’s mad as hell at her for giving it away. He would
never boldly admit to waiting on a whore to change her mind and act right. He would never do that because he knows
that he would just be confirming to the world what she thinks… He’s not worth
much.
Sometimes things mean so much more than they appear to mean on the
surface. Sometimes how we view others is a direct reflection of how we see
ourselves.
Sometimes we don’t feel
special or worthy of more than scraps.
No matter how we dress it a pig in lipstick is still just a pig. And
low self -esteem wrapped in a wedding band and a bible is still low self-esteem.
I am Somebody, I am Somebody, I am Somebody! Say it if you don’t feel
it. Say if you don’t understand it. Soon it will stick with you. And you will
be able to loudly proclaim “I know I’m somebody. Cause God don’t make no junk!”
And you won’t take any junk. And the other woman won’t matter. She won’t exist.
Because the man that would bring her about would no longer take up residence in
your life…. Shalom
